Manipulators and other disturbed characters sometimes like to openly threaten or brow-beat someone else into giving-up or giving-in to their demands.   They like to terrorize others into submission.  They use fear as a weapon, whether it’s fear of the known or unknown.  People in relationships with disturbed characters are generally familiar with their track record of behavior, thus they know what the disturbed character is not only capable of but also what they have been willing to do to get their way in the past.  

Disturbed characters who bully manipulate others by keeping them on the defensive and making them so afraid of possible negative repercussions that they don’t dare go against their wishes.  Sometimes, manipultors will brandish intense anger and rage, not so much because they’re really that angry, but because they want their victims to be so terrorized that they dare not do anything but cave in to their demands.  That doen’t mean that victims should take the rageful behavior of their tormentors lightly, it simply means that they have to recognize that their probably in a relationship with a person who will stop at nothing to get his or her way.  

Individuals who frequently use bullying as a manipulation tactic are among the least likely to change their modus operandi.  That’s because in addition to being an effective tactic of manipulation, such hard-headed combativeness is also a primary way the disturbed character avoids any kind of submission to a higher authority or standard of conduct.  Those who refuse to subjugate themselves to anything wage a constant war against the internalization of standards and controls that make most of us civilized.  Suffice it to say that the best idea is to not remain in any kind of relationship with a person willing to engage in such behavior.  

2 Responses to Bullying (Overt Intimidation) – Manipulation Tactic 7

  1. Lisa
    Dec 28, 2011

    Dr. Simon,

    Thanks for all your great posts, this describes my now ex husband that I still can’t seem to get over. I always thought, the kids and I made him that mad, he had to rage and scream and try to beat us into submission. The divorce hurt, but I wanted my kids out of there. It has been almost a year, and I still fool myself. I have been in counseling for 1.5 years trying to get past this. Again, Thanks!!

    • Dr. Simon
      Dec 28, 2011

      You’re so welcome, Lisa. We all need to take ownership of our emotions, reactions, impulses, and inclinations. Nobody really “makes us” do anything. And when we decide to take responsible charge of our lives, it’s never easy. All the best to you on your road to recovery and empowerment!

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