Now you can finally learn the truth about the manipulative, aggressive, narcissistic, and other responsibility-challenged people in your life.  These are the people who are content with themselves but who make everyone around them miserable.  After several unavoidable delays, orders can now be placed for Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of our Age. The international success of my first book, In Sheep’s Clothing:  Understanding... 

One of the thing my years of study on abusive relationships has taught me is that many times, victims of abuse trap themselves in their destructive relationships because they try too hard to understand.  An example of this comes in some correspondence I recently received: “My boyfriend and I have lived together for nearly 5 years. He doesn’t fit the accepted profile of an “abuser.”  He isn’t jealous and doesn’t... 

Having given literally hundreds of workshops on the topic of character disturbance, my audiences (helping professionals and lay persons alike) always seem to want to know how the various disturbed characters came to be the way they are and what can be done to help them change. I get similar questions from readers of my writings and blog articles as well. You can boil down many of the underlying assumptions of traditional schools of psychological... 

In the process of writing my soon to be released book Character Disturbance (Parkurst Brothers Publishers - In Press, scheduled release: July 31, 2010), I assembled what experience has taught me are the most essential lessons a person must learn to develop a sound, responsible character.  The “ten commandments” of character are just one of the major features of my new book that address what has to occur in a person’s character... 

A while back, I received the following letter from Jane in Oregon: I read your book In Sheep’s Clothing for the first time and really liked it.  I am also happy to say that I have found your website and other blogs that feature your work and have read many of your articles. I recognize myself as a kind of “neurotic” person like you describe and the man I’m dating as a disturbed character.  Unfortunately, it wasn’t... 

Occasionally, I get asked questions by blog readers that reflect the degree to which commonly accepted explanations for human behavior actually help make matters worse for people in relationships with disturbed characters.  Here is an example: I am in love with someone I believe must be a “commitment phobic.” I am not a psychologist nor am I in the medical field. But when my boyfriend flipped out on me for no apparent reason,... 

On one of the international blog sites that features my work, a woman commented: I have only recently realized that my elderly father is a covert-aggressive personality.  I spent so many years hating myself and feeling that others didn’t like me, including family members.  Knowing how I’d been duped has been a really hard realization to come to.  I always thought I had the “Leave it to Beaver life” yet I was... 

I’ve been posting a series of articles on the types of distorted thinking patterns or “thinking errors” individuals who have significant disturbances of character often exhibit.  We’re nearing the conclusion of this series, which has featured a fair number of the more common problematic thinking patterns including: unreasonable thinking, egocentric thinking, external thinking, hard-luck thinking, egomaniacal thinking, hedonistic... 

As part of an ongoing series on the nature of character disturbance, I’ve been posting several articles on the erroneous patterns of thinking common to individuals whose characters are seriously flawed. Some of the dysfunctional thinking patterns already explored include egomaniacal thinking, unreasonable thinking, and quick and easy thinking.  See: “The Egomaniacal Thinking of the Disturbed Character” “Unreasonable Thinking” “Quick... 

I’ve been posting a series of articles describing the dysfunctional ways disturbed characters tend to think and how those distorted ways of thinking are responsible for many of the problems people experience in their relationships with such characters.  I have already outlined over a dozen major “thinking errors” common to individuals with disturbances of character. Some of these include prideful thinking, hedonistic thinking,...