Comments for Manipulative-People.com http://www.manipulative-people.com Shedding new light on difficult people Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:56:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 Comment on The Covert-Aggressive Personality by Dr. Simon http://www.manipulative-people.com/the-covert-aggressive-personality/#comment-2644 Dr. Simon Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:56:56 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=46#comment-2644 You're most welcome. I'm glad you found the suggested ways to deal with this type positive and pragmatic. I'll let some of the others comment before I weigh in some more with other tips. You’re most welcome. I’m glad you found the suggested ways to deal with this type positive and pragmatic. I’ll let some of the others comment before I weigh in some more with other tips.

]]> Comment on The Covert-Aggressive Personality by Please Help http://www.manipulative-people.com/the-covert-aggressive-personality/#comment-2643 Please Help Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:47:54 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=46#comment-2643 Thank you Dr. Simon for the books "In Sheep's Clothing" and "Character Disturbance." "The Sociopath Next Door" is good but your books give measures to deal with this personality type. I have had to deal directly with this insidious person who has manipulated others around him for over 8 years to do his dirty deeds and sits back and watches his handy-work in action without being help accountable. The instigator of almost every single incident, this person has accelerated & honed his controlling abilities to such a point and recently has even gone so far as to set-up an acquaintance to be arrested orchestrating a scenario with his cohorts when they made false accusations organized by him. It's truly exhausting when you don't think the same way as someone like him (although it comes to him easily), and I really needed a positive, pragmatic strategy to deal with this unusually deceptive megalomania as it had disrupted my business and he is also beginning to pursue an official post in a local political arena which is very frightening. Thank you. Thank you Dr. Simon for the books “In Sheep’s Clothing” and “Character Disturbance.” “The Sociopath Next Door” is good but your books give measures to deal with this personality type. I have had to deal directly with this insidious person who has manipulated others around him for over 8 years to do his dirty deeds and sits back and watches his handy-work in action without being help accountable. The instigator of almost every single incident, this person has accelerated & honed his controlling abilities to such a point and recently has even gone so far as to set-up an acquaintance to be arrested orchestrating a scenario with his cohorts when they made false accusations organized by him.

It’s truly exhausting when you don’t think the same way as someone like him (although it comes to him easily), and I really needed a positive, pragmatic strategy to deal with this unusually deceptive megalomania as it had disrupted my business and he is also beginning to pursue an official post in a local political arena which is very frightening. Thank you.

]]> Comment on Surviving a Manipulator: Like Getting Whiplash by Dr. Simon http://www.manipulative-people.com/surviving-a-manipulator-like-getting-whiplash/#comment-2642 Dr. Simon Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:49:43 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=195#comment-2642 You're most welcome. Make peace. Self-affirmation and continued self-empowerment will eventually do more than just heal. Hang in there. You’re most welcome. Make peace. Self-affirmation and continued self-empowerment will eventually do more than just heal. Hang in there.

]]> Comment on Surviving a Manipulator: Like Getting Whiplash by Scar*let http://www.manipulative-people.com/surviving-a-manipulator-like-getting-whiplash/#comment-2641 Scar*let Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:43:57 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=195#comment-2641 At the time you wrote this article I was living with a man best described as a sociopath. I managed to eventually leave and am finding the healing process long and arduous - the full horror of what really happened only became apparent when it was safe enough to see it (once I'd left) and felt like a cruel but sobering slap through the face. Time is passing and the real struggle is making peace with how I managed to look for a positive spin on what were predominantly insidious actions. It helps to know what I'm experiencing now is 'normal' - it gives me hope that I will eventually move past this and toward a more peaceful, gentle and joyful place. Thank you. At the time you wrote this article I was living with a man best described as a sociopath. I managed to eventually leave and am finding the healing process long and arduous – the full horror of what really happened only became apparent when it was safe enough to see it (once I’d left) and felt like a cruel but sobering slap through the face. Time is passing and the real struggle is making peace with how I managed to look for a positive spin on what were predominantly insidious actions. It helps to know what I’m experiencing now is ‘normal’ – it gives me hope that I will eventually move past this and toward a more peaceful, gentle and joyful place. Thank you.

]]> Comment on Character Disturbance: Getting the Right Kind of Help by Dr. Simon http://www.manipulative-people.com/character-disturbance-getting-the-right-kind-of-help/#comment-2640 Dr. Simon Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:37:11 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=447#comment-2640 Thank you, Mary! Thank you, Mary!

]]> Comment on Character Disturbance: Getting the Right Kind of Help by Mary G http://www.manipulative-people.com/character-disturbance-getting-the-right-kind-of-help/#comment-2639 Mary G Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:45:30 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=447#comment-2639 I have Character Disturbance on my wishlist! I'm anxious to read anything you publish. Your work in your first book was liberating! Thank you! I have Character Disturbance on my wishlist! I’m anxious to read anything you publish. Your work in your first book was liberating! Thank you!

]]> Comment on Confessions of a Covert-Aggressive Personality by scared http://www.manipulative-people.com/confessions-of-a-covert-aggressive-personality/#comment-2637 scared Wed, 01 Feb 2012 01:49:43 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=79#comment-2637 wow - this is MY 22 year marriage...whenever he is away I feel I can BREATHE...the kids are not stressed either. Yet I feel NO ONE would believe me if I spoke up about how he treats me, and the kids. He is Mr Perfect and Mr In Charge everywhere else. I'm not a shrinking violet - I call him out, alot. But he never 'gets it', NEVER apologizes, and simply does not think he has ANY faults, as I "cause the problems" by wanting to talk about something that is bothering me. What I never realized until reading this is that I have just gotten used to things being this way and let it go to keep the peace since having kids. He does not care about keeping the peace and will escalate and prolong an argument to prove he is right. He does not respond one word to the emotion of what I am feeling - no empathy whatsoever. But will flip out if I "make him sound bad" when there is no one even in the room! That is all he cares about. Himself. He will often feign agreement with me but has no intention to change and then gets angry (way too angry way too fast) when I call him on what he said he would not do! I feel like I live in the Twilight Zone as he literally is 2 different people - one way at home and one way not at home. We've been to counseling - after he cheated on me - but he outsmarted the doc since he came off so calm and normal. I often go to sleep hoping not to wake up. It is hell. I'm even scared to write this for fear he will somehow read it. wow – this is MY 22 year marriage…whenever he is away I feel I can BREATHE…the kids are not stressed either. Yet I feel NO ONE would believe me if I spoke up about how he treats me, and the kids. He is Mr Perfect and Mr In Charge everywhere else. I’m not a shrinking violet – I call him out, alot. But he never ‘gets it’, NEVER apologizes, and simply does not think he has ANY faults, as I “cause the problems” by wanting to talk about something that is bothering me. What I never realized until reading this is that I have just gotten used to things being this way and let it go to keep the peace since having kids. He does not care about keeping the peace and will escalate and prolong an argument to prove he is right. He does not respond one word to the emotion of what I am feeling – no empathy whatsoever. But will flip out if I “make him sound bad” when there is no one even in the room! That is all he cares about. Himself. He will often feign agreement with me but has no intention to change and then gets angry (way too angry way too fast) when I call him on what he said he would not do! I feel like I live in the Twilight Zone as he literally is 2 different people – one way at home and one way not at home. We’ve been to counseling – after he cheated on me – but he outsmarted the doc since he came off so calm and normal. I often go to sleep hoping not to wake up. It is hell. I’m even scared to write this for fear he will somehow read it.

]]> Comment on Character on Trial: Some Lessons to Learn by Dr. Simon http://www.manipulative-people.com/character-on-trial-some-lessons-to-learn/#comment-2636 Dr. Simon Mon, 30 Jan 2012 17:27:44 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=344#comment-2636 Thanks for the comment, Gwendolyn. Thanks for the comment, Gwendolyn.

]]> Comment on Character on Trial: Some Lessons to Learn by Gwendolyn Wehage http://www.manipulative-people.com/character-on-trial-some-lessons-to-learn/#comment-2635 Gwendolyn Wehage Mon, 30 Jan 2012 16:41:03 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=344#comment-2635 Dr. Simon, I was blessed when I read your two books and other articles you have written. I have just encountered what you have been addressing, in our church. A young woman with children and a husband, has been stealing from stores. When she was caught and had to go before the judge, she pleaded guilty but with an explanation. Her explanation was that she had a bad childhood and just could not help herself. I was left feeling frustrated because friends witnessed to the judge that she was basically a good person, but had this problem because of her childhood. the judge did not buy it, and chastised her for it. Here is a classic example of the old "psychology" undermining the healing process by accepting lack of repentance and justification for criminal behavior. Dr. Simon, I was blessed when I read your two books and other articles you have written. I have just encountered what you have been addressing, in our church. A young woman with children and a husband, has been stealing from stores. When she was caught and had to go before the judge, she pleaded guilty but with an explanation. Her explanation was that she had a bad childhood and just could not help herself. I was left feeling frustrated because friends witnessed to the judge that she was basically a good person, but had this problem because of her childhood. the judge did not buy it, and chastised her for it. Here is a classic example of the old “psychology” undermining the healing process by accepting lack of repentance and justification for criminal behavior.

]]> Comment on Malignant Narcissism: At the Core of Psychopathy by Dr. Simon http://www.manipulative-people.com/malignant-narcissism-at-the-core-of-psychopathy/#comment-2633 Dr. Simon Fri, 27 Jan 2012 18:39:44 +0000 http://www.manipulative-people.com/?p=462#comment-2633 Thanks for the catch, Elizabeth. So corrected! Thanks for the catch, Elizabeth. So corrected!

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