Egocentric Thinking

As I described in my last post (see “What Were They Thinking? – Part 2”), persons with disturbed characters don’t act the way we do largely because they don’t think the way we do.  

Stanton Samenow was among the early researchers to catalog the distorted thinking patterns or “errors in thinking” which some of the most severely disturbed characters (those with criminal records) display. Over the years, I’ve adapted and modified several of the erroneous thinking patterns he and other researchers brought to light and added several of my own that I came to realize played a crucial role in the problems created by the disordered characters I have treated. The first erroneous thinking pattern I’ll be discussing is one I label “Egocentric Thinking”.  

The disordered character thinks so much about himself that it’s second nature. His concerns are almost always with himself and for himself. Whatever the situation or issue initially is, somehow it ends up about him. Disordered characters so frequently think about things that they want because that’s what’s important to them. They hardly ever think about what someone else might want or need, because they attach such little importance to that. Because he thinks the entire world revolves around him, he often thinks that others should care primarily about what he desires and what interests him.

When the disturbed character wants something, he doesn’t think about whether it’s right, good, legal, or whether his pursuit of it might adversely affect anyone — he only cares that he wants it. His incessant concern for himself and the things that he desires creates a pattern of thinking which embodies an attitude of indifference to the rights, needs, wants, and expectations of others. This attitude of indifference fosters a complete disregard for social obligation, and in some cases, as Samenow notes, an ardent disdain for and refusal to accept social obligation. As self-centered as he is, the disturbed character believes the world owes him everything and that he owes the world nothing. He has extremely high expectations for everyone else, but feels no concomitant sense that he should subjugate himself to the expectations of others or society in general. His thinking patterns, attitudes, and their resultant behaviors prompt him to lead an extremely self-centered lifestyle.


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8 thoughts on “Egocentric Thinking

  1. It’s odd how the paper assumes that the wrong thinker is a male and not in a non sexual content. I have see this issue in both men and women.

    1. Hi Frank, it’s been pretty well discussed and agreed upon that this issue is not exclusively a male issue. To what degree the percentages fall on the male gender is a hot topic of debate and has also been kicked up and down the field here and I’m sure in many other discussion forums. When it comes to “facts” that would “prove” which gender is deserving of which percentage that becomes a multifaceted, tangled up ball of yarn to tease apart.

  2. In my experience, Mexican/Chicano males are actually raised to be egocentric. They are raised, especially by single mothers, to be served hand and foot. First by their mothers and sisters, then by their wives. Meanwhile, the girls are raised to be servants.

    1. Tanya:I don’t know if this is Mexican/Chicano problem… Or may be, you are just discriminating,I am Mexican,I’m married with a good Mexican man, same thing all my sisters,and we weren’t raised to be servants. I’m sorry if you feel that way…this problem is affecting every culture,but probably your twisted way of thinking don’t let you see the reality.

  3. I have a friend who fits this to a tee. Whenever we go out everything has to go his way, if it don’t it’s wrong. Trying to talk to him about it only starts an argument. Nothing we say or do is wright.

  4. My father was a very egocentric man. Growing up with him, no sibling or mother, I picked up on. Perfect home, no shoes in the house, correct lids on cups, and clean so I can see my things. YES, I said it, MY things. I was taught to share. I was taught to take over what I wanted. I wasn’t allowed to cry, that was too girly for my dad. My afternoon fun was watching the the news and reading about current events.
    I wasn’t raised to be a servant and I certainly would never became one. Yes I had servants I see nothing wrong with that. They were paid well.

    1. I was amazed reading this article. I always wonder about the way the human mind thinks. I know a lot of people that show all the signs of being an Egocentric thinker.

  5. I have dealt with some people that had egocentric tendencies, but if they have a good heart I can deal with it because you can rationalize with them their thoughts. If they don’t have a good heart and are a self centered egotistical fool, I don’t think I would bother conversing with them, cause their is no getting through to them on any level. I would just go my way and them go their way, and that is okay.

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