When you confront a manipulator or any disturbed character about their behavior, they will often attempt to sidestep the issue or to avoid the subject altogether.  They want to keep the spotlight off their problematic behaviors.  They also don’t want their true character to be exposed or to be put on the spot (i.e. caught momentarily without a good offensive strategy for taking advantage of another).  So, they are quick to dodge the important issues brought to their attention.  When you ask them a direct question, they will not give a straight answer.  Instead, they try to evade or sidestep the question and often also try to re-direct your focus (this is another tactic called diversion, which will be the subject of another post).  

Evasion is a one of the main tactics manipulators and other disordered characters use to maintain control in situations.  A common misconception, based largely on outdated principles of classical psychology, is that they engage in such behaviors because they perceive themselves to be under attack and are trying to defend themselves and protect their egos.  But the real reason they use such tactics is to keep others in the dark and in one-down positions.  The disordered character never wants the playing field to be level.  He or she always want to have the advantage over you.  They also don’t want to play by the same rules by which we’d like them to play.  So they use tactics like evasion to avoid responsibility as well as to manipulate and control others.    

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